The saying goes
“Anybody can be a Father, but it takes a real man to be a
Dad”. What does that mean? To be a Real
Father, It first takes God to be the center of your life.
It takes a total surrender of yourself and your time.
It takes your total attention to every detail. It
takes just about everything you got. How can this be
done? Only though God can it be truly done.
Some people put
it this way.
F is for
A is for
T is for
H is for Humble
E is for
R is for being
the “Rock” that holds the family together!
As I was
growing up, I watched my brothers as they made mistakes
that all kids make and I watched my Dad discipline them
for doing wrong. I watched because all I knew was,
that I did NOT want to make those same mistakes. I
learned what to do and I learned what not to do.
Ever since I can remember, I always had that built in
desire to please my Dad. I did not receive the same
discipline that my older brothers did because (1.) I did
not want the same punishment for doing the things they
did, but (2.) and most importantly. I wanted my Dad
to be proud of me. This kept me from doing some of
the things I knew were wrong….I said some.
Of course he
knew this and used that as a more gentle way of
disciplining me. All it took when I did something
wrong was to see the look on his face and this feeling of
just utter despair came over me and I knew I never wanted
to do that again. Although you can’t see God’s face
when you do something wrong, he put this same desire in
you when the Holy Spirit enters you when you become a
Born Again Christian. The Inner desire to please
I was so
blessed by God to have my Dad, although you never fully
realize that until your older. He walked that line
of making sure we knew when we did something wrong but
also making sure we knew that he loved us. And Yes
I heard many times that old saying “This is going to hurt
me, more than it hurts you”, even if I didn’t believe it
then, I learned to believe it later when I became a Dad.
My Dad is a
shining example of what a Father should be. Not
because he thought of it himself, but it was because of
his close walk with Jesus that he was able to put into
practice the same things that Jesus does for us as a
Father. He gave us such an example of how to love
people, how to treat people, and most of all how to love
The one thing
my Dad made the priority of his Fatherhood was his
“Time”. He not only spent quality time with us but
he also spent such a quantity of time with us. He
was always doing something with us, whether it was
playing football or basketball, taking us hiking or to
the park, or even if it was just sitting and talking.
We knew he loved us, he was always there when we needed
him. All these things are good and should be done
by Fathers but the most important thing my Dad ever did
was raising us to Love God.
Now, we didn’t
always get that and a lot of times we went the opposite
way, but as Proverbs 22:6 says “Train a child in the way
he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from
it.” and that is just what he did. He spent hours
upon hours teaching us about Jesus and what he did for
us. We didn’t listen right away. All three of
us decided we knew better than Dad did on how to become
happy. But just as God’s words are true and just.
Here I am today, as a Born again Slave to the Lord Jesus
nothing I did to deserve this. This was a gift from
God that he would continue to knock on the door of my
heart until I realized that I needed him. That I
needed to turn my life over to him. God gets all the
glory for this, but it is my Dad that he used to
accomplish it. Without my Dad being there and never
once giving up on me is the reason I am a Born Again
Christian today. It is all that time and effort
that he put into us as kids, the seeds he planted in us
that God used to bring me back to him. He couldn’t
make me follow God but he had the patience and love over
the years to keep pointing me towards God.
My Dad will
never receive a medal in this life for his selfless
sacrifice in raising us. He will never receive the
full measure for his deeds in this life for all that he
did for us. But God who counts every deed and every
thought has not forgotten one ounce of effort that my Dad
put into us. When my Dad walks into Heaven, he will
receive it all in full.
I know there
may be some of you out there that may not have had a
Father like this, and for that, I can only say that God
our Heavenly Father is able to fill that gap for you.
It is also one of the reasons that I say that I was truly
blessed to know my Dad. He is the Rock that my
family is anchored to, and he is anchored to the real
So as the title
says “What makes a Father”? God is still
teaching me these things everyday but I have a head start
just looking back at what my Dad did for us. The
rest will be found in living out what the Bible teaches.
We have no better example than that of our Heavenly
Father and his love for us. My Dad mirrored that in
his life so I will have no excuse for not being a real
Father to my kids.
I used to hope
that I would be a good father. Now I know that
hoping I would be, is not good enough. It is the
effort that HAS to be put in, that my kids need.
You get one chance to be a Father and anything less than
your best is not going to be good enough.
Thank you Dad
for all that you have done for us. For being the
road map that I needed to find my way home, to Jesus.
I love you
Standing For God